Plant A Garden - Diane Marie Ford

More and more women are reaching out feeling the need to connect with their deceased mothers as more and more spirits of mothers are reaching out to connect with their daughters. Is it due to the chord being struck during the month of May? I wonder?

I am familiar with all different types of love…love of and from brothers, sisters, friends, partners, animal companions, nature, good food, you name it, I could go on and on. However, after the (sudden) death of my mother I experienced the stark realization that no one and I mean no one, loves you like your mother! Her physical absence from my life left a huge, gaping hole and a dread of never experiencing the feeling of being loved by anyone like that again.

We are all familiar with the expression “you don’t know what you’ve got till it’s gone.” Well, don’t get me wrong, when my mother was among the living we were very close and we did appreciate one another. Somehow (in retrospect) I must not have felt, truly felt, the deepness of her love until she was gone. Do you know what I’m talking about? The type of love that knows no boundaries… unadulterated, unconditional love? Rather than experiencing the instinctive awareness of her loving arms wrapped around me, I was left to feel like a lost, lonely, little girl.

Thank God that feeling was soon replaced by a quiet reassurance of her presence. She reached out in ways that surpassed my rational thinking. My mother pulled ‘rabbits out of a hat’ and provided me with subtle messages and signs, to let me know she was with me on a deeper and more profound level. To this day, she continues to do so.

What I have come to realize is my mother’s love for me has not disappeared – it simply has taken on a new form – just as she has. I will celebrate my mother, Leah, this month and welcome you to celebrate yours!

There are many ways to connect with and celebrate your mother in spirit.

One is to simply think of her. Yes, think of her.
You can also talk about her to others, share stories, and look at photographs. Remembering your loved ones in spirit keeps them close to you.
How about planting a garden in her memory? You can then spend time with her there.
Connect with someone who can connect you with your mother.
Or, connect with her directly by clearing a space in your life in which you can relax, tune all else out and invite your mother to have a conversation. Be patient with yourself – allow the connection to take place. Feel her presence, enjoy her company, as I am confident she will enjoy you, and let love fill your heart.

Above all else remember a mother’s love is eternal.